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“The Coconut Girl Cooks” Episode 2: Homemade Stock

Just in time to put those Thanksgiving turkey bones to good use!  In this four-minute video you’ll learn how easy it is to make delicious homemade stock. The base of countless soups, stews and sauces, stock is an essential ingredient for healthy cooking. It’s economical to make, tastes delicious on its own, and is bar-none the best cold remedy.  Featuring the Coconut Girl’s indomitable sous chef.

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The Fruit of Knowledge

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“Don’t eat this one,” my four and a half year-old son told me, pointing to a Granny Smith on the table. It was one among dozens we’d over-picked at the orchard.

“Does it have a bad spot?” I asked.

“No, there’s a needle in it.”

I peered at the innocent-looking apple.  A tiny brown dot on a sea of green skin was all that betrayed the danger lurking inside. A dot I would have missed had he not brought it to my attention. My son can detect a sharp object in our home like his sister can sniff out a hidden birthday present.  Where had I left a needle within his reach?

“Thanks for letting me know, ” I said, in as Montessori a voice as I could muster.

I needed a place to stash the apple safely until I could retrieve the tiny steel shaft. On tiptoes, our kids can now grasp objects on the highest living room shelf and on the mantel. So the top of the refrigerator has become our home’s Elba for familial ne’er-do-wells: sharp objects, fire-starters, and fought-after toys. Among the current exiles: a remote-control bumblebee, a groaning ziplock of Halloween candy, and a butane stove-lighter. I half-expected the objects to whistle a cat-call to the new prisoner as I set it down.

As with most work I do that requires concentration, I waited until after the children were in bed to tackle the apple.  “Check this out,” I said to my husband. With a paring knife I cut into the fruit at a 30-degree angle on both sides of the brown speck.  Shimmying the wedge up the length of the needle, it eased loose a little, but not much. It was submerged to the core.

What my son had done was magnificent. He’d aimed to hurt no one, of this I was sure. He was just tempted by the apple, like Eve. I imagined the electrons in his brain doing a Double McTwist 1260 as they jumped between the apple neuron and the needle neuron.  The next day he and I had a chat about food safety, without any finger-wagging.  Afterward, I watched him skip away, the boy who taught a needle how to be a splinter.

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Trust that still, small voice that says, “This might work and I’ll try it.” — Diane Mariechild

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Meals on Wheels

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A serving of soup and I went cruising around town last night. We were looking for my elderly neighbor, Mr. Davis, who moved to a nursing home a month ago. My family’s been bringing him hot meals once a week for two years. He loves soup. And that’s virtually all we know about him. As long as we’ve been in this neighborhood, he’s lived alone and kept to himself. We’ve watched him mow his lawn very slowly in the summer. We dug him out of last winter’s blizzards. One day in the spring we noticed someone had brought our trashcans in from the curb. It was Mr. Davis. I thanked him that evening, as I handed him a plate of quiche. “You’re always doing for me,” was his response.

The gatekeeper at the nursing home turned in her chair to greet me, releasing a plume of cinnamon potpourri. On her desk, a sign read “STOP: All Visitors Must Sanitize Hands and Refrain from Cell Phone Use.” Influenza and oxygen, I thought. “Mr. Davis isn’t here,” she said. “They came and got him on Friday. He’s at the hospital.” I thanked her and left. A minute later, I returned. “Can you tell me which hospital?” She flipped open a binder. “Chuck’ll know,” she said, punching an employee’s extension into the phone. “Mr. Davis’ family member wants to know where he is,” she inquired.  I didn’t correct her.

Three minutes later I was headed back home. He was in the hospital just up the road from his old house, and from mine. Out his window he’d be able to see the street he drove down every day for thirty years. But it was dark outside, and turning cold. The soup and I kept each other warm as we walked towards the covered entrance. Flags snapped in the wind.

“Seventh floor,” the receptionist said. I’d told my husband I’d be gone forty minutes. I was closing in on thirty. The nurses told me Mr. Davis was awake but that they needed to ready him for visitors. Waiting in the hall, I watched aides carry bed linens to a service room. His unit was just three levels up from the floor where my children were born, but it was another world.

“He’s ready,” the nurse announced. I asked if he could have the food I’d brought, because I didn’t want him to see it otherwise. “Sure,” she said. I walked in, and was relieved to see he that he looked himself, other than the gown and oxygen line. I set the soup and bread on a wheeled tray. We exchanged the briefest of greetings, just as we’d done at his doorstep many times. I resorted to humor, something I do when I’m nervous. “Mr. Davis, you know you can’t lose me that easily. I’ll always find you.” He laughed a little and said “What?” He’s almost deaf. “I brought you some soup. I’ll bring you more. How about chicken and rice next?”  He heard me this time.  “Any kind’s fine.” I bent down under a monitor and held his hands.  “See you soon, okay?” I looked him squarely in his eyes. They were steely and kind at the same time. His dark irises blended into his pupils.

I passed his old house, then pulled into our driveway. “How’s Mr. Davis?” my daughter whispered when I came to say goodnight. Her light was out, and she was almost asleep. “He’s fine, honey,” I said, getting up. Maybe I was kidding myself. But didn’t he seem okay?  Perhaps I was confusing him with me. A moving truck carried away his belongings on Saturday. Even the items put on the curb labeled “FREE” were gone. Still, for now, Mr. Davis had figured out how to get closer to home.

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SickHaus

A one-minute homage to cold and flu season. Based on actual events chez Coconut Girl.

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Born to Run

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I try to squeeze too much into the hours when my children are at school. Some architecture, some writing, some laundry, maybe even a head start on dinner. Seductive denial whispers in my ear, “You know what? You can get that proposal done by 10:15, then you’ll have an hour to design that guest room, and another thirty minutes to tackle Mt. Laundry in the den.”

Fast forward to twenty minutes before my son’s noon pick-up time.  My hands violate the upper rack of the dishwasher searching for a sippy cup lid for his milk. I always have a warm cup ready for him when he gets in the car—the magic elixir that transports us home in peace.

As I drive to his preschool, I catch the last ten minutes of Diane Rehm. Her guests are wrapping up. I try to decode the show’s topic. It’s a guest host, the one who sounds like the Daily Feed guy. Out the window I enjoy the controversial new road that’s just opened after years of construction. Its chi feels clean, unmarred by accidents, roadkill, even speeding tickets.

Fifteen minutes later I’m back on the new road, headed in the opposite direction with my sweet boy. I look at him in the rear view mirror. He’s asking if we can we put on some kids’ music. But now Terry Gross is on, and she’s talking about Bruce Springsteen. I want to know what craft my son did at school, and what he had for snack. I also want to hear Terry and the Boss. What did she say? I turn it up. My son complains. A filmmaker says “Born to Run” was a wall of sound.  My boy kicks off his tennis shoes. They drop to the floor like anchors. I notice the corten steel guardrail along the new stone bridge. Its rust croons of switchback roads in Colorado. Terry says that Springsteen’s spare and maudlin “Darkness on the Edge of Town” is being re-released tomorrow. Someday, I think, I’ll hole up in a resort somewhere and listen to Fresh Air podcasts back to back, no interruptions. But I place myself in the floral-print hotel room and it’s lonely. After a show or two I long for my children’s fingers curling around mine. I reach towards the back seat. Without looking I know where my arm should hover to be within my son’s reach. At the red light, I turn the radio off and clasp the warmth of his hand.

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The dogs on main street howl,
’cause they understand,
If I could take one moment into my hands
Mister, I ain’t a boy, no, I’m a man,
And I believe in a promised land.

-Bruce Springsteen, “Promised Land,” from “Darkness on the Edge of Town.”

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Eraserhead

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The terazzo floors at the school where I attended first grade mesmerized me as I walked down the hall. If I got to class early enough, I had permission to follow the floor’s magenta marble flecks to the school bookstore. It was a strange name for the school-supply shop that was packed neatly into a closet by the principal’s office. I was there to look; my right pocket held one nickel for milk.  Jars of pencils, stacks of crisp notebooks, and trays of colorful erasers held my rapt attention.  “What do you want, dear?” the elderly school secretary, Mrs. Lawrence, would ask.  In three months, I’d never bought a thing. Behind her, amber oak cubbies held stacks of construction paper awaiting adornment. “I’d like one of those eraser caps, and two airplane pencils, please.” It was Tim from my classroom. His mom packed Hohos and Suzy Qs in his lunchbox.  He had the waistline to prove it, but I didn’t connect the two then. In class I’d watch his novelty eraser from the bookstore waltz in the air as he wrote T-I-M in the top right corner of his worksheets. It added weight to his pencil, yet made it lighter, so it seemed. Underneath, the pencil’s original eraser was pristine, no misspelled word buffeted by the sharp edge of the ferrule.

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Postscript: January 2011:

A kind reader sent me this photo.The erasers were purchased at my elementary school’s bookstore during the years I was a student, and have been lovingly stored during the many intervening years.

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“Sell your Cleverness…

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…and buy bewilderment.”   — Rumi

A old college friend, P., called while I was cutting the grass on Friday. I was watching the blade collect wet green stitches on our manual pushmower when I felt my back pocket buzz. My phone was on me, for once, because my brother was due to arrive from Kentucky at any moment. He might need directions from the hotel. When the caller turned out to be P., I stopped my last-minute landscaping, stood still, and allowed myself to catch up with my friend. I’m doing more of that lately: entertaining the idea that whatever blips across my radar might be as good or better than what I had planned. “Here’s what I know: absolutely nothing, ” I found myself saying in response to P.’s how-are-things-query.  It’s true, something I’ve been thinking about a lot. I can do plenty of things, and I know many facts. But I don’t know what’s best for anyone else, or how things are going to turn out, ever.  In a good way. It’s as if The Present Moment has been flirting with me for years, maybe decades, and I’m finally noticing that he’s trailing me. And that he’s good-lookin,’ to boot.

Another example. Two weeks ago, my kids and I took a wrong turn inside CVS en route to the pharmacy counter.  To my horror, we found ourselves smack-dab in the middle of Halloween kitsch H.Q. “Can we get this candy bowl with the grabby skeleton hand?” pleaded my children. We made it out with just my prescription, but days later, my daughter was still asking for the giant spider webs we’d seen crammed into plastic bags by the candy display. Her heart was set on having a web, so I bought a sack the next day when she and her brother were in school.  It would be a cheap, clunky version of an arachnid’s home, but it was for the children. We unfurled it an hour before dinnertime, as the sun was starting to set. And there,  balancing on the gauzy, gossamer threads, was none other than Mr. Universe.

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While You Were Out…

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To: L., 10/12/2010 …you became a big brother. As you played in a schoolmate’s garden, your mother was five blocks away at the hospital, delivering your baby sister. As proof that that the Universe is always expanding, you are now even more beautiful and beloved than you were yesterday.

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To: B., 10/15/2010…arrangements were made to pluck you from the house where you’ve lived independently into your late 80’s. Your new residence is a two-room suite in a nursing home. Now, to greet the dawn, you’ll first step into a fluorescently-lit corridor and descend four floors in an Otis elevator.

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To: W., 10/16/2010…your five-foot diameter, twenty-year-old hydrangeas were bundled in burlap and carefully moved from the front walk to the back yard. Now, in accordance with Feng Shui principles, visitors and good chi can find your front door.

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To: G., 10/25/2010…The mirror called. Yesterday you were unaware of your appearance.  Now you consult the glass.

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To: J.,  10/30/2010…The company you admire above all others needs you. Word of your vision and expertise has reached its shores. Book the red-eye.

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To: MM: 10/31/2010…Shelves were cleared and tools gathered. Pencils, paper and paint wait to record the ideas that through you, will move from ether to matter.

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“The Coconut Girl Cooks” Launches!

Ok, y’all. Let’s get this dinner started!

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The Perfect Present

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In Venice, a fabric firmament of clean laundry zigzags high over the narrow streets and canals. I lived in the city two times, once during architecture school and once right after. For over a thousand years, Venice was known as La Serenissima, “the Most Peaceful Rebublic.” It could also be called the most playful; glimpses of the city play hide and seek with me all the time.  The morning I rolled down the road to deliver my son, I looked out the window and saw the Venetian flag flying at a house one block from the hospital.  To me, a blouse blowing on a clothesline in the humblest of back yards is a wave from the Rialto.
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It was a professor who urged me towards the Adriatic, who raised his eyebrows at my rationality and said, simply, “Go.” He knew the trip would change my life, and it did. He died last week at his family home on the Grand Canal.  Godspeed and mille grazie, caro Mario.

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